Remember these words, and you
Remember these words, and you will save yourself a lot of time and trouble: "If it were going to happen, it would have happened by now."
It's like being at a party, and it's getting late, and a Certain Someone leaves and you suddenly have this embarrassed feeling that you have no reason for being there now that the Certain Someone has left. Perhaps you'd been thinking that, by just hanging around, something wonderful might somehow happen.
Don't hang around. "If it were going to happen, it would have happened by now." Put on your coat, go home and get some rest.
And that way, maybe you can be the Certain Someone.