"I'm sure you can remember
"I'm sure you can remember some opportunities when you really could have been a little bit more aggressive....."
Unfortunately, I have to err on the side of caution these days. I live in a conservative little city (Halifax, Nova Scotia). Even within my hip music scene social circle, people still tend to be pretty uptight about sexual matters. Folks thrive on gossip here.
Now that I've set up shop as a public sexual persona, I feel like my activities are being constantly scrutinized. Imagine how it feels to open up your weekly newspaper and see that anonymous people have taken out ads saying things like "Philip Clark got shot down by three women at once" or "Screw the Philip Clark fan club."
A result of this is that I'm careful about coming on aggressively to strangers. The haters would love to get their hands on a story about Philip the predator making nasty unwanted advances on some defenceless young thing. I don't want to give them the satisfaction.
If I suspect I might be attracted to someone, my initial response is to be aloof to the point of apparent indifference. I'll hang back and make careful observations. Sometimes interest cools quickly. Timing is very important.
A hot woman is one who is impossible to ignore.