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August 28, 2002

If I'm checking out a

If I'm checking out a woman in a bar, one thing that will cause me to rule her out right away would be if she goes off somewhere and makes a phone call. Now who in the world would she be calling at two in the morning? Jealous boyfriend? Not too impressive.

Or maybe her cellphone-packing friends. "So like hi, we're at the Marquee...yeah, it's pretty crowded... the DJ kind of sucks... So are you guys going to chill out at the Palace for a while?... OK, I'll tell Trixie... she's upstairs somewhere... I'll phone her."

Just checking messages? Whatever. Your messages aren't going anywhere.

Unless you're on call for medical emergencies, talking on the phone in a bar makes you look like a chump.

August 26, 2002

"Sex is best enjoyed when

"Sex is best enjoyed when you do know someone!!"

If this is an argument in favour of monogamy, I'm not convinced.

The case usually made for monogamous sex is that you can really get to know someone and get to know what they like and so on. The flipside to this, which no one ever talks about, is that you also get to know all the things your partner doesn't like.

Every time you go to bed with this person, somewhere in the back of your head, you're thinking about all the things you wish you could persuade him or her to enjoy. Oral sex, anal sex, rough sex, roleplaying, threesomes...

You tried it once and she wasn't into it. Or he's "just not comfortable" with the idea.

So your relationship continues on and you have great sex whenever you want, or at least fairly often, which seems to you like a decent tradeoff for all the fantasies that you will never fulfill. Plus you've gotten to know her body quite well, and you've discovered that you can make her come instantly by licking the back of her knee.

Great! Have fun licking the back of her knee for the next two years.

There are so many social

There are so many social boundaries in place to prevent strangers from having sex with each other, at least in the heterosexual world. Any encounter that manages to bypass all the social bullshit is exciting to me. Last week I went home with a woman I'd just met, and it turned out to be the hottest sex I'd had all summer. Instant connections are electrifying.

In any case, the whole

In any case, the whole notion that you have to spend weeks or months learning how to turn someone on properly seems lazy to me. Give me a hot and willing woman, and in six or eight hours I'll take her apart and put her back together again.

August 24, 2002

Funny, I can bone my

Funny, I can bone my brains out all month in the North End and never get near this so-called hot action website. But as soon as I go to the South End for some non-sex, here I am, typing away.

Maybe it's because the less satisfactory encounters seem somehow more instructive.

Or maybe it's because, if I'd stayed in the North End, I'd probably still be going at it right now.

Anyways, hi. It's 6:30 in

Anyways, hi. It's 6:30 in the morning. I'm at the studio, having just walked all the way back from the South End. Just got done a pretty steamy makeout session beside a, I don't know, church or a school or something, whatever it was... it was in the god damn South End.

Damn, she was cute. Damn. She had fine breasts. I was at the point of thinking about finding someplace just a wee bit more secluded, for an illicit tryst. Obviously, I don't know the neighbourhood at all, but hell it shouldn't be that difficult; after leaving the Marquee we'd walked past two people fucking in a doorway on Gottingen Street, for crying out loud. [hmm... and I wasn't one of them.]

She was doing something I really, really like (that's for you to find out) and then we paused for a moment and we were looking at each other and then she said, "I should probably go." She had to get some sleep, had to wake up a friend, driving back to Montreal that day, and so on.

My loins grumbled at the thought of being denied access to her sexy body, but so be it, I walked her back to the place where she was staying.

Just before she kissed me goodnight and goodbye forever:

"I can't believe you waited until 3:30 to talk to me."

"But you didn't make eye contact."

Her jaw dropped. "What! These guys were hitting on me and I was totally looking at you like, 'Please come over and pretend you know me so I don't have to talk to them.'"

Silently, I was thinking about how we were not on our way to have sex. And how if she were truly hot, she would have come after me back at the bar.

"You're not too quick on the uptake," she said.

August 20, 2002

"You want to get to

"You want to get to know me? I don't know, that's a little weird... I just met you. Nothing personal, it's just that... I like to sleep with people before I get to know them. It's a trust thing, really..."

August 15, 2002

"It's too hot to fuck,"

"It's too hot to fuck," one of my roommates was complaining.

True.

But, damn... it's too hot not to fuck.