Coast article
If you're visiting this blog for the first time after having read the hotaction article in Coast Weekly, then good morning and welcome.
I had an excellent chat with Daemon from The Coast last weekend, and he did a pretty good job of boiling it all down. There are a few points I'd like to address, however:
~ The correct spelling of my name is "Philip Clark." But if you are writing anything about me on the Marquee bathroom wall, feel free to spell my name incorrectly. I can cite this misspelling as evidence that I didn't actually write the graffiti myself.
~ At one point the URL for the blog is mistakenly given as "www.hotaction.com." I'm not even going to make that a hyperlink, because as far as I can tell there's no reason for anyone to ever visit that site.
~ The part about "do other guys, girlfriends" was a typo that had me scratching my head wondering if maybe that's what I'd actually said.
~ The part about how if you meet Philip Clark, he's probably going to "try to bed you" needs some serious qualification. I sort of covered this in the section of the FAQ entitled "Do you try to sleep with every woman you meet."
I will again state explicitly that I meet a lot of women in my line of work, and if you've ever worked with me, you'll know that I hold myself to a high standard of professionalism. I would never want a woman to be uncomfortable working with me because she thinks my sexuality is going to suddenly come into play on the job.
If anything, my high level of sexual awareness means that I know when to turn it on and also when to turn it off, probably better than a lot of males do.
I'm in contact with women every day at work, in the grocery store, walking down the street. There are women everywhere. Hundreds of women. Christ, sometimes it seems like half the people I meet are women. I'm certainly not trying to bed all of them.
I can't even really get down with the phrase "try to bed you." In the words of that dirty little seduction master Yoda, "Try? There is no try."
I probably spend as much time trying to avoid being bedded by all the women at the Marquee who think of me as nothing more than a walking sex toy.
Comments
It is interesting to hear about your philosophy in the Q&A. However, I doubt that you are such a virtuoso that you always get what you want... i.e. no letdowns- as you suggest. Be Truthful man...its hard sometimes to get what you want...especially sex with someone you really want.
hmmm. You make me feel inferior because i'm not getting laid- but then again I think I should "try" harder. You say you don't 'try' hard, but maybe you take it for granted that you work in a environment where sex vibes are pervasive .
Posted by: BBT | November 7, 2003 03:37 PM
Hey Phil
FYI, we had a major crash when we were already past deadline; there was no time to copyedit the BOH feature, hence all the mistakes throughout.
It doesn't change what Daemon wrote, but the misspelling of your name and domain would've been corrected if it weren't for evil, evil computers. Sorry.
Posted by: Tara @ The Coast | November 7, 2003 03:56 PM
BBT: Concerning letdowns, feel free to peruse the archives for occasional examples of disgruntlement and heartbreak.
As far as not getting to have sex with "someone you really want," there is a simple, common-sense solution to that: go out and fuck ten other gorgeous women. Then re-evaluate how you feel about that "someone"... if you can remember to.
I will repeat, a man should never "try" to pick up. He should just carry himself at all times with the attitude that he is a worthy individual and he would be interesting to hang out with. The ladies will respond to him accordingly.
Actually, the Marquee is far from my favourite place to meet women. Bars tend to feature a highly regimented social code of approach and contact. Drunkenness becomes a distraction and an annoyance. There is far more room for an authentic, spontaneous meeting at a coffee shop, say, or even just walking down the street.
Posted by: phi. | November 7, 2003 04:14 PM
Tara: no worries and no harm done. Thanks.
Posted by: phi. | November 7, 2003 04:14 PM
thanks, I will peruse the archives.
Posted by: BBT | November 7, 2003 05:28 PM
So you're now known as PUA in the whole city? Hm. :)
How does that affect your life? I think I still prefer that my PUA blog remains anonymous.
Posted by: SirItalian | November 8, 2003 03:25 AM
Could you please expand on your FAQ? In particular, could you give straight men some tips on how to recognize when a woman is NOT interested? Please emphasize that staring at a woman's tits while talking to her is v. creepy and will cause her to tell her friends " Jim/ Guido / Alex / Tariq, etc.. is such a CREEP."
Posted by: Suzanne | November 8, 2003 01:15 PM
OK listen up Jim, Alex, Guido and Tariq.
It's nice that you got your picture in The Coast, and I'm glad the first Oh God CD got a semi-decent review. But please stop eyeballing Suzanne's chest. She hates your band.
Thank you.
Posted by: phi. | November 8, 2003 05:39 PM
if she doesnt like it she can fucking fight me. i'll fight a girl...
Posted by: ger. | November 9, 2003 06:08 PM
i have to admit, i've always thought you were a bit of an ass, mostly a result of things half heard and half seen, since i don't really qualify as someone who knows you as more as an occaisional nod in the crowd.
now that i've actually bothered to read this site, as opposed to scoffing at the unknown, i'd like to offer an apology. i don't see the world quite the way you do, and i'm too much of a mushball to follow your lead. but you made me laugh, you made me hot, and you made me wrong. thanks
Posted by: ann | November 9, 2003 06:34 PM